My uncle is with family again…
Friday I got a call saying that my grandmother was frantic because she got a call from the funeral home that handled my uncle’s funeral 2 years ago. They didn’t say why they needed to talk to my former aunt just that they really needed to get a hold of her.
I called the funeral home for my grandmother to find out what was up as I was the last to talk to my former aunt about 6 months ago. After talking with the guy I asked him if they somehow had my uncle’s remains there. He told me he couldn’t tell me that. I then said ‘I’ll presume you have them there unless you tell me otherwise’. He again said he couldn’t confirm that but I could hear in his voice that I was right.
Huh? How’d they get the remains back? I tried calling my aunt. Phone disconnected. I tried calling her work. No longer employed there. I did some other ‘searching’ and it appears she just picked up and moved to Indiana. WTF? She said nothing to me and I thought we were friends.
Long story short. My father went to the home and managed to get the ashes from them. Turns out my aunt moved and when the new owners started moving in they found a box in a back closet with the funeral home’s number on it. They called the home and dropped off the remains. My father had to sign a release saying that we wouldn’t scatter the ashes in case she came back for them. I seriously fucking doubt she will.
I was stunned. She left town leaving my uncle’s, her former husband’s, remains sitting in a fucking closet. A back bedroom closet. Fuck her. What a damned, and I don’t use this word often but it applies, cunt. I thought we were friends. We tried to keep her as part of the family after he died but she distanced herself from us. Then she fucks us with this last slap to the face. She could have left them on a doorstep early in the morning if she didn’t want to talk to us.
Yes, we have his remains but can’t follow through with his wishes to scatter them at Lake Powell because of the way she left them behind. Not only that, we’ve lost nearly everything that was Roy. None of his photography, books, memories. Nothing. The only thing anybody got after he died was his camera that I borrowed that she never asked to get back. That’s it. A camera. I cherish it as it was his pride and joy and we spent some good times together taking pics with it. I assume that most of what defined my uncle is now sitting in a city dump somewhere and rotting. This pisses me off to no end.
J, wherever you are, if you read this: Fuck you.